Dr Julie | Psychologist

💥This hits hard 👉How do you feel when someone in your life says one thing but does another? Sometimes it can cause us to doubt ourselves because we want so much to believe in the words they say. But when there is a disconnect between words and actions I tend to believe that the behaviour carries more weight. Despite this I do believe that we should always assume positive intent and not rush to judge someone’s actions as malicious until we know more. As soon as we interpret a situation in that way, we are already disconnected and less likely to be able to approach them in a way that will help us fully understand intent. I’d love to hear what you guys think on this one, from your own experience. 👉 For more on this check out my new book ‘Open When...’ It was an instant No.1 Sunday Times and New York Times bestseller. Available for -48% discount see link in bio. Also check out my million copy bestselling 1st book ‘Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?’ Up to 60% off right now. Both are available across the world in over 40 languages. If you don’t want to read it and would like me to read it to you, it’s free when you sign up to Audible. Both links in my bio. If you brought a copy of either of my books thank you for the support 🙏

⏳ You need to know this about high functioning depression: The term itself is not a clinical diagnosis, but a term that has been used online to describe the experience of those who live with depressive symptoms and struggle to function but don’t cease to function. • This term is pretty useful as many people have a pre-conceived idea that good mental health is all about whether you can still get to work or not. They often feel undeserving of any support because they are not outwardly at rock bottom. • If you take one thing away from this video, let it be that the best time to start doing the right things for your mental health is the moment you think you could benefit from it. • Don’t wait until your mental health prevents you from functioning. That is a much longer and harder journey back. Feel free to share @drjulie ❤️ 👉For more insights check out my new book ‘Open When...’ It was an instant No.1 Sunday Times and New York Times bestseller. Available for -48% discount see link in bio. Also check out my million copy bestselling 1st book ‘Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?’ Up to 60% off right now. Both are available in across the world in over 35 languages in audio and ebook. Both links in my bio.

👉 Important tip - So many people assume that when they feel anxious they are not progressing. But when you have willingly taken action to step into a feared situation that stands between you and your desired future, give yourself credit for pushing in the right direction. Of course it is OK to take breaks from this and replenish along the way. Facing your fear will be exhausting as your body is working hard to produce that stress response. So, spend time in your comfort zone but keep the exposure to your fears both frequent and regular in order to see results. For anyone who has severe and enduring anxiety or associated mental health problems and unsafe coping strategies then seek professional help with this before you get started. Feel free to share ❤️ 👉 For more on this subject check out my new book ‘Open When...’ It was an instant No.1 Sunday Times and New York Times bestseller. Available for -48% discount see link in bio. Also for more on the subject of anxiety check out my million copy bestselling 1st book ‘Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?’ Both are available across the world in over 40 languages. If you don’t want to read it and would like me to read it to you, it’s free when you sign up to Audible. Both links in my bio. If you brought a copy of either of my books thank you for the support 🙏

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🔥 The last is the key! 👉 Ever felt like your reality was being twisted? Most likely, we have all felt that on occasion. Gaslighting in relationships is more common than you think. But once in a while does not have quite the same corrosive impact of the repeated cycle can alter the entire dynamic of a relationship over time. If this is happening to you persistently and you notice that you no longer trust in your own judgment, start writing things down. Keeping a journal of these interactions can help you begin to spot patterns in the relationship. Trusted friends or a therapist can be a lifeline of support that offers an outside perspective and the encouragement to find a way through. 👉 If you like my work you’re love my million copy bestseller, ‘Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?’ And my New Sunday Times & New York Times bestseller, ‘Open When…’ please see the link in my bio where you can order both x

👉 Can you answer no.4? If these signs of loneliness resonate for you, this is something to take seriously. Not just because the feeling itself is painful, but because it is both a warning sign for the strain that a lack of human connection will put on your overall mental health, but also crucial information about what you need in order to make things better. For some people addressing loneliness is about finding and creating opportunities for connection. For others, it is about tackling the fears around social interaction and the skills needed to thrive in those environments. There is not enough room to do all of these subjects justice in a caption, but if you want in-depth guidance from me, I cover them all in my new, Sunday Times & New York Times bestseller, ‘Open When…’ Also check out my million copy bestseller, ‘Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?’

👉The last one is a common trap! More on this below.. For those who find themselves wanting to leave a relationship and blaming themselves for finding it hard to break away, it’s never been as easy as you tell yourself it should be. If your partner is using any combination of these manipulations, you will be more isolated, vulnerable, and confused about how best to proceed. Not because there is anything wrong with you, but because that is the effect these behaviours have on most people. Finding some form of support outside of the relationship is crucial. It helps you to get a wider perspective on the relationship. Doing that on your own is not easy. That person might be a trusted friend or family member or a professional. Learning about these types of behaviour can help you to spot them while they are happening and to see them for what they are. 👉 If you enjoy my videos you’ll love my new book it was a New York Times & Sunday Times bestseller! ‘Open When...’ it is finally out now worldwide (link in bio) Also check out my million copy bestselling 1st book ‘Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?’ Both are available across the world in over 35 languages.

👉 The last part is crucial💥 Here’s something you might not expect: whether or not you meet diagnostic criteria isn’t the most important part. You don’t need a diagnosis to reflect on your wellbeing and notice it might benefit from some attention. Whatever a doctor says you have—or don’t have—you can take charge and start making positive changes. You don’t have to be at the mercy of anxiety forever. There’s a whole toolkit available to help you reclaim your life. Therapy is wonderful, but it’s not accessible to everyone—and if you’re reading this, you already have access to a world of knowledge online. If you would prefer a more personal guide from a professional, the Anxiety Action Plan in the new edition of my first book, *Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?*, offers a clear, evidence-based guide to tackling anxiety step-by-step. My latest book, *Open When*, brings the words you need when fear takes over and you don’t know where to turn—one to keep in your bag for tough moments. Links are in my bio. Follow me for more videos on this subject. Feel free to share @drjulie ❤️

👉 Do you ever feel like the only grown up in an adult relationship? Comment below. Here’s a few signs that you are dealing with someone who is emotional immature: 1. The relationship is like walking on eggshells, you have to second-guess your every move to avoid conflict. 2. Putting a foot wrong can lead to them lashing out in, often disproportionate rage. 3. In conflict, they might be vicious and aggressive, or switch to play a victim role, placing all responsibility on others to fix the situation for them. These are just some of the signs that might sound familiar. In all of these scenarios it is easy to get drawn into their patterns. But there *is* a way to step back without losing your compassion or your relationship. Follow the steps above and see if you can make this relationship more stable and peaceful. Remember, you are not trying to change them. That is not your job and sets you up with an unachievable task. 👉There is a whole chapter called “When it’s difficult to be with others” in my new book ‘Open When...’ It was an instant No.1 Sunday Times Bestseller and New York Times bestseller. Available for limited time with up to -48% discount. Also check out my million copy bestselling 1st book ‘Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?’ Both are available in across the world in over 35 languages in audio and ebook. Both links in my bio. If you brought a copy of either thank you for the support 🙏