There are only three possible explanations for your husband’s behavior. I wrote a whole book on the nuances of when to stay or leave and this is one that can be very clearcut.
It cannot be overstated how much we do not actually know these people, but it has always fascinated me that no one brings this up in the discourse. #whodeservesyourlove #therapistsontiktok
How often it happens isnt the only important bit. None of these categories tell you whether she is doing it because she’s struggling or has trauma or if she’s just a horrible person. In the end, *why* she does it isn’t the only or even most important factor.
Replying to @apeacefulriot most frequently, gaslighting involves claiming that things happened that never happened, or claiming that something never happened that did happen. However, even in normal relationships, people will occasionally have a different recollection of events. The real crux of gaslighting is the use of passionate belief as a convincer in the absence of real points or evidence that makes you question your own reality and feel crazy. Like you cant trust your own brain ##whodeservesyourlove##therapistsontiktok##gaslighting
Replying to @🌞🌞🌞 I’m not saying that every instance of infidelity is nuanced. Your personal situation may have been black-and-white. I’m saying at a high level, as a therapist, it is a nuanced topic.
I get what they’re trying to say but some of these “horrible” before pictures are literally just women postpartum with no makeup on, or looking like any woman might when they are comfortable enough to not look perfect 24/7. I dont think the trend is wrong or anything its just that taken all together it feels weirdly like a woman’s sparkle always equates to being more conventionally attractive.